Monday March 1st, 2010
Month Goal Evaluation:
I just wanted everyone who left comments to know that I really appreciate hearing about what you have been doing with your kids. Sometimes I feel like I’m just going through the motions so that I will have something to post so reading what you are doing really inspires me to enjoy my children more. Although the contest is over I would love to continue to hear about the fun things you are doing with your children. I will announce the winner on tomorrows post.
March Month Goal:
This month I want us to focus on giving our children choices. The idea is that if you give them lots of choices about things that don’t matter, like “Would you like to go to bed in 2 minutes or 3 minutes?” then when you have to lay down the law and say, “Time for bed now” it is easier for them to deal with. If they happen to put up a fuss then you simply say, “Didn’t I give you lot’s of choices today? (You could even mention some of the choices that you gave them) Well right now it’s my turn make the choice.” If the three minutes are up and it’s time for bed and they throw a fit you can say, “Oh, honey, but it was your choice to go to bed in 3 minutes and it’s been three minutes.” Pay close attention as you try doing this because you should notice fewer tantrums because they will feel like they have some control.
Today’s Activity:
Sit nearby and watch your children play.
Note:
Don’t really play with them; just observe them as they use their imagination or social skills.
You must be reading “Love and Logic” as well. We have been doing it at our house and it has been going fabulous! The kids really do respond better!!!
[...] Have you been giving your kids choices? Not me…I keep forgetting so this is my own personal reminder of this months goal. [...]